June 2, 2004 at 10:04 am #1779
As a young professional who choose to live in Diamondhead I would like hear from others who are interested in removing the senior citizens from governing Diamondhead. Diamondhead is no longer a retirement community and needs young blood in the government. It’s time participate and not complain!June 3, 2004 at 9:04 am #1778
As a newcomer to Diamondhead myself I must agree with you. I am still shocked everyday at the level of distrust in the Board and yet they remain intacted. It is time for some new ideas and tenacity to take over. This “Corporation” must be taking its lead from former Enron execs. I would love to get some untainted leadership in the running.June 3, 2004 at 4:22 pm #1780
In reference to the changing demographics, I would like to agree that the current leadership seems to be fighting this change and is acting with an outmoded vision of the community. The future of Diamondhead rests on young families that are settling here. As a parent of a preschooler, I attempted to form a playgroup for preschoolers, as all of the activities Diamondhead has are only open to ages 7 and up. Basically I was told by Kinta Bakken, the youth coordinator, that we cannot do anything for young kids, even if the activities are free, because both the country club and rec center forbid any functions involving kids under 7 years old because they are “too loud and disruptive” (as if some of the Mardi Gras balls, etc. held here are not loud). I was forced to start my own playgroup just by talking to Diamondhead mothers I met(and by the way over 20 kids showed up the first day, a TINY percentage of who would be interested in something like this if they knew about it). I left my phone number with Ms. Bakken and offered my time, etc. and have not gotten a call back (it was about 3 months ago). All I heard from her was what we can’t do instead of what we CAN do for kids. We need a leadership, as well as paid employees, that accept the changing nature of this community and who embrace it instead of squelch it.June 4, 2004 at 1:04 pm #1783
If anyone is interested in forming a group of young adults to challenge the current government, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org to discuss further.June 9, 2004 at 11:56 am #1785
Please be assured that this change in Diamondhead is not new or sudden. When my family and I moved here in 1988, our children were preteens. There were not enough children in ‘da Head to have their own ball teams. My sons played with Harrison County teams. There was only 1 school bus running to Hancock schools. Things do change. Many of the “older” people on the board (and running for the board) have been here some time and they were once young, too. You too, hopefully, will age in our community. Those that come after you will question your motives and your means. That won’t mean you were wrong or they are right. It’s just change in changing times.
I agree that young, new, fresh ideas and approaches are needed. They always have been and always will be. Continue to investigate ways to make Diamondhead a better place — I doubt you will get any resistance. It doesn’t have to be a rebellion or a revolution — just a meaningful change. And remember, history happened and it can’t be changed. It can/should be learned from and “better” ways of conducting business and pleasure should be the outcome of history.
Finally, remember you came to Diamondhead. It was not “created” for you but was build and nurtured by those “old” people who came here even before there was an I-10 crossing Mississippi. Modify it, enhance it, embrace it, make it better, help it grow. Progress is a wonderful thing. Tolerate the past, make the future better. donJune 9, 2004 at 12:25 pm #1786
No, Diamondhead was created as a retirement community, but because of the economic changes of the coast many locals and others are now able to reside here. No longer should the residents support the hobbies (golf, tennis, yacht club, country club) of others. If you want to enjoy, then you support them with your POA dues! I have no problems paying for security, maintenance, and the management of a rational covenant. You would like for the younger community to grow old here so we may support the dwindling retirement group. If by choice I decide to remain here after retirement, I will not expect others to support my hobbies. The time for toleration is over!!!!!!!!June 9, 2004 at 1:19 pm #1787
Concerning your assumption about Diamondhead as a retirement community, you may want to read this:http://www.diamondheadnews.com/forum/thread-view.asp?threadid=48&MessageID=133#133July 14, 2004 at 10:01 pm #1793
I moved here in 1993 from a rented condo on the beach in Pass Christian when, because of the housing demand created by the casinos, my rent had quickly risen to $200 a month more than I determined a 15 yr mortgage payment would be. I was 43 at the time, my “child” had graduated from college and had begun his engineering career in Louisiana and, although I wasn’t close to retirement, I do have to admit I found the idea of a community of older (and quieter) residents rather appealing.
It didn’t take me long to realize that Diamondhead was a community of (mostly) lovely people of all ages that does, however, have a much higher precentage of retirees than most comparably sized communities. I still love it here and thanks to our younger families, there are actually some things I can do with my grandson when he visits without “leaving the plantation”.
That being said, some of what Matt wrote punched a couple of my buttons even though I truly don’t believe he intended to dismiss senior (or about to be) citizens as vital contributors to D’head’s appeal, beauty, and most importantly, it’s economy. Nor do I believe that he wants to exclude this group from decision making or being considered in decisions that are made. I’m sure he was aiming at the actions of certain board members rather than many of our fellow reidents who just happen to share a generation with them.
I do agree that our board needs new blood, to include officers of varying ages and pursuits, so that our residents are represented by a mix of people and ideas more closely related to that of our population.
I also agree with some other postings I’ve read proposing that those who use the golf courses should bear the bulk of the associated costs of operating and maintaining them. I live near one of the courses and see 6 or 7 of my neighbors riding their carts to or from golfing daily. Until I started visiting this website, it never dawned on me that I was subsidizing their “lifestyle” even though the only club I’ve ever held was for putt putt and that was only twice and certainly not in D’head. Same goes for the airport. Most of us get no benefit from it. It’s not like Delta can drop off our out-of-town visitors there.
But by far and large, I think our biggest problem is apathy and/or the feeling that we don’t have the power to make significant change. It’s certainly been my feeling and my failing. Having heard bits and pieces of problems with Diamondhead politics while my home was under construction, I made the conscious decision to just live my life, enjoy my new surroundings, and keep myself totally removed from board meetings, etc. The only concern I’ve taken an active interest in is the proposed casino that hopefully will never be built.
This website has been an epiphany for me. I’m embarrassed to say that the dues increase was the only unpleasant “governmental” issue of which I was aware. I’ve definitely decided to wash all the sand out of my nose and ears (you know – from having my head buried in it). I want to take a much more active role in educating myself on the monster that is D’head politics so that I can be included in the group that helps to tame it, although I’m not sure killing it isn’t a better idea. In the meantime I intend to encourage all of my neighbors to add this site to their favorites list and visit it regularly.
Thank you to the editor and all the others involved in creating and managing this site!!!!July 15, 2004 at 11:41 am #1794
Thank you for your post.
You are correct that too many postings here seem to disparage the work and participation of seniors in the community. Although Diamondhead was NOT intended to be a retirement community per se (families have always been allowed here), it had for many years become one de facto. One thing to remember is that the seniors who volunteer their time, coordinate events, and actually participate in things here are a large part of what keeps the community so nice and attractive to 30-somethings like myself. Many retired folk have the time and interest in ‘getting involved’ that working people, with or without kids, simply don’t have. Just imagine what the Diamondhead facilities would have become if ‘seniors’ did not live here to engage with them.
What needs to be clarified here is the true problem, that a problem can arise when ‘leadership’ prohibits, or makes difficult, activities aimed at the younger residents (see my above posting regarding playgroups). There is a problem when a belief is held by the ‘leadership’ that all members of Diamondhead, including children, are not entitled to the same access as seniors. After all, we are all dues paying members. My kids should be allowed in the Rec Center for activities. We should not be glared at when they enter Diamondhead buildings. These attitudes filter down into the community and color the opinions of seniors who have believed that the community is strictly ‘theirs’. Once, in the Diamondhead ‘library’, a resident told me (and my very quiet and behaved kids) ‘you know, this library is really more a place for the adults than for kids’. I think the seniors participation in the community is great; I also think the participation of young families could be great.
These postings that espouse an ‘us against them’ mentality are damaging to the community. Instead, we should thank the previous retirees in this community for keeping our real estate values high, get proactively involved in politics to elect fair and inovative leadership, and, most important, actually DO SOMETHING that would further raise the quality of life for Diamondhead families.
If anyone who has posted here has actually acted proactively to start and activity, club, event, etc. for youg families, working professionals, etc. and been unable to accomplish it because of POA policy, please post here to let us know. Maybe we can all help. If you have succeeded, please post here and let us know. Maybe we would like to come. If you have done neither, you are a hypocrite to complain.
One last word: We are all (including myself) referring to retirees and working families as a large group which all act in concert. I have jerks in my neighborhood who are retirees and jerks who are working people. But mostly, lots of nice people with a ‘live and let live’ mentality.To change things in Diamondhead we need to start dealing with individuals instead of with groups. Lets talk about actual incidents and events and try to remedy actual problems instead of simply making generalized complaints.
I hope this helps some of you keep it all in perspective.July 15, 2004 at 9:10 pm #1795
I read your playgroups posting last night and was amazed that a great idea requiring such minimal effort on the part of one of “our” employees was totally dismissed. I found it to be insulting to you, your children, and the rest of Diamondhead’s kids. I assumed anyone with enough intelligence to get out of bed in the morning would be aware that children thrive on socialization, interaction and need variety in their activities. I also incorrectly assumed that someone in a position to do so, would be happy to provide assistance to that end.
I haven’t witnessed the “us against them” syndrome yet but that’s probably because I’m sort of in the middle age-wise, I haven’t joined any clubs and have participated in very few community events. I think it’s extremely unfortunate that such an attitude exists, and especially so if it’s perpetuated by our so-called leadership. If their apathy helps to create some bored adolescents who amuse themselves with vandalism or some other mischief, I not only hope these people are still around to witness it, but that karma intervenes to give them a first-hand look at what otherwise great kids consider entertainment when “there’s nothing fun to do around here”.
I still think Diamondhead is a great place to live but I’m also realizing how much better we can all help to make it.July 17, 2004 at 4:55 pm #1798
I ‘felt’ the same kind of ‘reluctance’ on Bakken’s part when I gave her an idea for our youth after returning from another similar community in S.C. last fall. They have outdoor movies there each Sat night (Shriek, Nemo, etc.) that are attended by large numbers of families on the lawn with blankets and baskets of food. It was wonderful and was a unique experience in this day and age where very few people hardly know their neighbors.July 17, 2004 at 5:02 pm #1799
Even though the board has some younger members, it does seem out of touch with the community. It has closed itself off from the majority of the POA and become more and more secretive in its actions. Very little information is passed on via the paper and open meetings have gone from every other month to maybe two per year. I have it on good (and documented) authority that open meetings are not worth the directors’ efforts since they are not well attended. We definitely need more openness in our community’s decisions and policies.July 19, 2004 at 9:40 am #1800
WHAT A GREAT IDEA!
We need to do this. Even if it is an indoor event on a big screen TV. But the outdoor picnic is great! This barely costs anything. Maybe someone in the community could donate use of a projection system and people can offer use of their DVD’s. It does not have to be first run movies, just stuff to get families and kids together. If there does turn out to be cost, i.e. to rent equipment, a small collection bucket will ensure that if each family gives a few dollars it will cost Diamondhead nothing.If this is fun, no family will have a problem wanting to contribute.
If you want to work on this project with me, email me directly at email@example.com. I know several families who would get involved in this. Maybe if we have more people we can actually get the sanction of Diamondhead for this type of function. What was Bakken’s actual response on this? Did she say ‘no’?July 19, 2004 at 9:54 am #1801
She said I must not have been reading the paper. Apparently there was a movie shown somewhere at sometime for the kids. The remainder of what she said primarily concerned not having a projector, etc. She really didn’t seem interested. I’d like to work with you on this. I’m at firstname.lastname@example.orgJuly 19, 2004 at 6:02 pm #1802
We have a projector and DVD Player that would suit your needs.
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